Case Study: Nicole

Nicole is 42 and isn’t wasting time on emotionally unavailable men anymore.

Before enrolling in Soul Level Love, Nicole kept dating the same kind of men – men who didn’t want to commit. We call that “same man with a different face syndrome” .

“I was very frustrated. Every guy would seem different – he’d call every day, say he wanted to get married and have kids, and then three months later the calls stopped or he ‘wasn’t ready’. It happened over and over again”

Determined to put an end to this, Nicole tried to switch everything up. She changed where she went to meet men, what she would say, the questions she would ask – hoping to eliminate the wrong men that way.

“I changed it all around and none of it was working. I realized maybe it was ME. I was the only part of the equation that hadn’t changed.”

Being the self-aware woman she is, Nicole started reading a lot of self-help books and blogs and attended other dating expert’s events. She quickly learned that she had a big Love Block around vulnerability and expressing herself. It was holding her back from powerful connection.

“I realized that I myself wasn’t emotionally available, when that’s what I wanted so deeply from a man. What attracted me to Kavita was how open and honest she was about her relationship with Hemal. She wasn’t saying everything was perfect. I knew I needed someone who was walking the talk to teach me how to be open myself”

“I was concerned about trying another program and not getting the results I wanted”

“I’m a results oriented person. I thought, ‘Is this going to be some hocus pocus, light-a-candle kind of stuff?’ I didn’t want that. I wanted more than just affirmations to manifest a man”

She wanted something tangible. Because Soul Level Love is packed with step-by-step instructions on how to tackle your biggest Love Blocks (plus opportunities to talk about your situation and get answers), Nicole quickly learned she could get the results she wanted.

“I like that there are things you did every week that reinforce the teachings. The most powerful lesson for me is that there’s nothing wrong with you. I don’t even know if Kavita knows how powerful that is.”

Everyone understands the concept of loving yourself. Someone tells you you’re perfect the way you are and you just think,

“Thanks, but I’m 42 and still single. If I’m so great then why don’t I have what I want?”

When you do the work in Soul Level Love, you get an entire toolbox of exercises surrounding the idea of self love that make it tangible. By the end of the course, instead of something you logically know – it turns into something you FEEL. The self love gave way to Nicole accessing more of her emotions and through that getting more vulnerable and expressing herself. “This made a powerful impact on my life”, Nicole says. “When you drop the conflicting ideas about yourself, you realize that the man who’s going to love all of you will come. It can be that simple. And Kavita really puts it in your face!”

“Letting all that go helped me stop being needy. I’m not constantly checking myself and perfecting. I relax.”

And not just with men.

In her family, she’s having difficult conversations instead of “politely” skipping over them and acting as if they aren’t a big deal. In her career, she’s stopped saying “Yes” to responsibilities that don’t make her happy. On dates, instead of being nervous and in her head about if the man likes her – “Now it’s ‘Do I like HIM?”

I save so much time now!

Because Nicole is expressing herself fully with men and not holding back, it becomes clear quickly if the men she’s dating are emotionally available.

“It’s very easy for me to see when a man’s wrong for me. Before I would think, ‘Well maybe he’s right, maybe he’ll change – I should just see and give it a shot’ – I was going out with everybody. Now I’m just like, ‘Nope. You’re not right, and that’s cool. I’ll wait”

BELIEVING that the right man exists for her, Nicole isn’t willing to accept anything else.

“I’m looking forward to putting these tools into practice with the RIGHT man. I’m excited to be with someone where we can say, ‘I’m ready to see you and let you see me’. I’ve never let anyone do that before. I’m so excited to have that kind of experience. I know he’s coming.”