Case Study: Victoria

Post divorce, Victoria wasn’t meeting the kinds of men she wanted. She’s now in Soul Level Love with her boyfriend, Sal

Victoria had just broken up with the first man she dated after her divorce when she found the Soul Level Love program.

“I went through a phase of ‘Not again. What am I doing wrong?’ I saw lots of men but would never approach them because I was wondering, “Are they single? Would they even be interested?”

Like many women who join Soul Level Love, Victoria had already done a lot of inner work and was very self aware.

“I was ready for a deep relationship. I was clear on what I wanted but not sure what I needed to do to have it. I could tell I needed to do something different, but what? I know I have a lot of love in my heart. But things just weren’t matching up. I wasn’t meeting the kinds of guys I wanted to.”

Victoria made the commitment to invest in Soul Level Love and quickly discovered what was blocking her.

“The fact that Kavita could put to words what I wanted but had never really expressed to anybody – that hooked me.”

In the first two weeks of the Soul Level Love program we dive into what you believe about relationships and men. The concept of freedom in a relationship was new for Victoria, and she learned that one of her biggest Love Blocks was the ability to be detached to an outcome with men.

“Imagine arguing with someone who needed you to like them. That’s really icky and needy. But that’s what I was doing. I was always so attached to what a man wanted me to be. All of a sudden through this work I had a new level of confidence and trust in myself.”

She put herself out there online and met the right man during week 3 of Soul Level Love

“It was like the 3rd or 4th week when we connected on match and went on a date. I interacted the way I always wanted to be with men. It wasn’t until after the program that we made it official. But I was unattached to the outcome the whole time.”

The tools Victoria learned in the program made her feel like she could fully give her heart to this man.

“I trusted the feedback I was getting from him – I felt safe, I felt calm, I felt loved – trusting that instead of some artificial timeline. I let intimacy go where it felt natural. I didn’t have concerns about “Is this the wrong thing, is this the right thing?’

Now Victoria has the tools to KEEP Soul Level Love – even through the disagreements

Finding the right man is not the only thing it takes. If you’re not able to bring the same centeredness you had when you met him into the day to day, it will be harder to keep.

“When my boyfriend and I have arguments in our relationship – there is this detachment from needing him to like me in them. It doesn’t mean I’m a bitch.”

Now when things come up for Victoria and Sal, they give each other the space to ask questions like, “Hey our relationship feels funky right now, what’s going on? What are the assumptions that I have about you right now?” At one point Sal told Victoria he needed a couple days to think about their relationship, and she let him.

“Was it difficult? Yes! I have tons of emotions! But I trust him and knew he was making a choice that would ultimately be best for both of us.”

She’s looking forward to continued growth with this man

Victoria is fully trusting her relationship with Sal and is vulnerable in ways she never thought possible – even letting him support her in her career where her future is uncertain.

“He just says the most amazing things to me when I’m doubting myself like, “You swing big and you take these big risks and I love that about you”

For Victoria, Soul Level Love isn’t just about the relationship – but about honoring the full expression of the man she has in front of her.

“It’s beyond the nights and weekends we spent together. I want to honor his life and what he’s here to contribute. If this isn’t Soul Level Love, I don’t know what else would be. It’s really exciting.”