Case Study: Liz

Liz realized playing the NUMBERS GAME with dating left her exhausted.

When Liz discovered the Soul Level Love program, she’d hit a wall in her love life. She thought she should be able find a solution to what she was doing wrong and fix it on her own.

“I know the word “should” is never a good word to use. But I really didn’t feel attractive. I didn’t feel like I was getting out there enough or doing the right things.”

Like so many women who’ve joined Soul Level Love, Liz was frustrated and carrying around a lot of anger about being single. “I just didn’t understand WHY”, she says. Liz started to use all the dating rules as guidelines to become Ms. Perfect. A version of herself that would make the right man want to be with her. She went on date after date, and everything she was trying wasn’t working. When you’re focusing on making sure you’re following all these rules (created by someone else) you actually stop accepting yourself – and create a disconnect between the real you, which can be felt by men and turns them off. It’s not actually the rules you need, but the ability to express yourself without them.

Drawn to the fact that the core message of Soul Level Love is that there’s nothing to fix about yourself & you don’t have to go on a ton of dates to find the right man, Liz committed to doing the work.

Liz was using all of these dating rules to protect herself – instead of expressing herself fully with men & the people in her life who mattered most. As part of the program, you’re guided step by step on the exact conversations you need to have with your parents to feel a shift in your life. It’s not as intense as it sounds (it is life changing though). Whether your parents are still alive, you never knew your parents, or whatever your unique situation, there’s a way to have these same breakthroughs – all of which are broken down inside the program starting with Week 3.

“I thought I knew everything there was about my parents and love. Kavita made me realize how wrong that was.”

The insights Liz gained were huge for her love life. Through these conversations, it quickly became apparent why she thought she had to follow a certain set of rules to be dateable.

“I had this family black sheep belief that my parents only chose each other because they had to, which was such bullshit. This realization and this work has helped me be okay with who I am. I don’t have to perfect. I’m never going to figure everything out. It’s okay to just be me.”

As for those rules she was using before, when she wasn’t accepting who she was? She’s not following them.

“I realized it’s okay to flirt with a man and show him you’re interested – and even touch him, if that’s what you want to do. Now I feel like it’s okay to get the ball rolling. It helped me have way more confidence around men.”

Falling in love with herself & having fun online dating.

After Soul Level Love, Liz decided to get back into online dating.

“I can go online and have fun. Be relaxed. Before that, I would have been trying to talk to or meet as many men as possible because it was a ‘Numbers Game’. So exhausting.”

But it’s not just about Liz’s new confidence online. She feels an extra level of love and acceptance for herself that helps her say no to things that don’t interest her and YES to things that do – without worrying too much about what the man thinks.

“I fell more in love with myself through the program – it’s really powerful. This level of acceptance came from the conversations with my parents and feeling their love and their history. I don’t think I would have accomplished this without Kavita’s perspective”